The Choice to Not Say "I Told You So"

We’ve all done it. That moment when you know the route you suggested was faster than the one your friend actually took. Or when you warned your spouse that the paint color they picked out was too dark, and now your house looks like a dank dungeon. Or when you told your teenager that staying up late would make them tired for the test in the morning…and now, here they are, struggling to get out of bed at 7 am. 

You were aching to say it…so you did. “I told you so!” 

But did it really matter? Didn’t you make it to your final destination safely? Can’t the walls be repainted? Didn’t your teen pass the test anyway? Will it ever make a difference to say those “finger pointing” four little words out loud? 

No, it won’t. Most likely it’ll escalate the situation, create an argument and foster feelings of resentment. Sometimes it isn’t about winning the argument, losing the argument or even ending the argument. Sometimes, it’s just about “letting go” and not saying anything.

You don’t always have to be right, and you don’t always have to chime in with your thoughts on the matter. Allowing someone room to make a mistake, to have their own way of doing things, or to grow on their own will develop independence in them and turn you into a more patient and accepting person.

So, make the choice to just let go of those little moments when you know you’re right or think your way is better. When you let go of always wanting to be right, you also let go of stress and anxiety. When you make this choice, you start “building bridges” with others instead of constantly tearing them down.

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. Denis Waitley