The Choice to Not Be Lonely

We all feel lonely at times. It’s usually a feeling of sadness – one that can be caused by actually being alone, but, more frequently, by thinking we are “the only person in the world with a problem or situation like this.”

However, we can make the choice to change that feeling. We can turn “lonely” into something much better. Lonely feelings are really signals that we need to change the current focus of our lives from ourselves to someone else…someone who could benefit from us showing our love or caring for them.

When you find yourself approaching one of these lonely times, instead of sitting there feeling insecure or depressed, turn it into an opportunity to help someone around you. Maybe you know someone in your family or neighborhood that would benefit from your phone call or visit. Maybe you could go a step further and actually join – this week – a local volunteer organization to help your community on an ongoing basis.

Once you have fixed your “lonely problem” in one of these ways, you can use your alone time much more effectively…to meditate, to explore a new hobby, to read a great book, or to reset your mind with a little relaxation. Or, even to identify ways that you can help more people in the days and weeks ahead.

There are far too many people in need for any of us to feel lonely. A small effort to help someone else can create big changes in our own lives. Danny Thomas, the founder of St. Jude Children’s Hospital said, “Success has nothing to do with what you gain or accomplish for yourself. It’s what you do for others.”

Try it…make the choice to focus on others…and change your life.

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. Denis Waitley