The Choice to Love and Respect Each Other

While we might not fully realize it, we are living in one of the worst “finger pointing” times in the history of our country. Not a day goes by without some politician verbally stepping on one of their colleagues…or a nightly newscaster giving more one-sided “views” than news…or a local leader bashing a recent decision made at the city or state level. We ourselves fall into this same finger-pointing mode when we talk badly about one of our neighbors or say something derogatory about someone else.

One of the hardest things to learn and actually put into practice is the fact that “the truth is in the middle” somewhere. We have the natural tendency to believe that we are right and they are wrong. But, that’s just not the case. More importantly, when we effectively combine two different opinions into one overall solution, not only is the solution better, but more people support it.

Maybe the second hardest is showing respect for someone with whom we disagree. If we think that their opinion is bad, we often make the mistake of thinking that the person is bad too.

So, how do we turn this around? We do so by making a choice, a very important one. We make the choice to show more love – and in all cases more respect – for those who have opinions that differ from our own.

No question, we have big needs in this country. Police forces need to show more restraint, young people need to act more responsibly, politicians need to set better examples, the quality of education needs to be improved, more jobs need to be created…and on and on. But, we’ll never accomplish any of these by finger pointing. We’ll only get there by showing love and respect for others, and working with them for the good of all.

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. Denis Waitley