The Choice to Learn and Move on From Our Mistakes

There are times when we lie in bed wanting to go to sleep, but some bad choice we made seems to keep creeping into our heads. Whatever it is, it seems to be eating away at us. We analyze it over and over again wondering why in the world we did that in the first place. 

We keep telling ourselves to just forget it hoping that this self-administered advice will sink in and we can finally get some rest. We feel bad and wish that we could go back and change things. Well, we can’t.

But, there can be a positive side to this condition. It’s good to have regrets provided you learn something and do things differently as a result. If we don’t feel bad about our past mistakes, we miss the opportunity to make important adjustments to our life. However, if we recognize it as such, these can be learning moments during which we can make some very important choices that will help us “do much better” in the future.

When you stop and think about it, most really successful businesses change and adapt based on what they learn along the way. For example, IBM started out many years ago as a hardware business, but today – still growing and expanding – it’s primarily a software and services organization. The same principle applies to you and me. Our lives can get “bigger and better” if we are willing to change and adapt.

So, when regret raises its gnarly head, face your regret head on and turn it into a choice that will make your life better. There’s absolutely nothing we can do about the past…but almost everything that we can do about the future.

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. Denis Waitley