Recall the last time you were angry. What happened? Who or what made you angry? Were you justified in your anger? Or do you feel that perhaps you shouldn’t have gotten angry? Do you think you could have chosen not to be angry? As an emotion, anger isn’t something that you necessarily choose. After all, you can’t really control how you feel. Or can you?
Most of us have conveyed our angry emotions inappropriately at one time or another, for different reasons. A bad day, stress, depression, or other negative emotions may cause you to lash out in response to something that ordinarily wouldn’t have angered you. Now, it’s quiz time. Imagine yourself in the following situation...
When do you have anger problems? How do you tend to solve them? Expressing anger isn’t necessarily wrong. But we do need to practice dealing with it in appropriate ways, so that it serves to solve problems rather than to create new ones.
Facing someone else’s anger can add stress to your life, even if the anger isn’t always directed at you. And if you are often the target, frequent conflict creates a stormy relationship between the two of you. Regardless of the specific situation, it’s best to have a plan for dealing with another person’s anger.