One of the blessings of being part of a family is to be able to share your life with others: your joys, your heartaches, your strengths, your weaknesses and even a few little secrets now and then.
The most well-balanced children will perceive weaknesses in themselves. Unfortunately, these little personal views can be exploited and amplified by their friends and family. Self-perception evolves from a variety of sources produced by both family and community systems.
Patience is a virtue. Who hasn’t heard those words? The words themselves are deeply embedded in our thoughts, but the behavior – the actual practice of patience – is another character trait that has fallen by the wayside in society today. Our hurried, overscheduled culture in which everything must happen immediately is taking its toll on our willingness to be patient and work things out.
Some families never fight, but they also never talk to each other. Other families fight until the police arrive to break it up. Somewhere in the middle of that is where you are as a parent when it comes to resolving conflict within your family. Believe it or not, simple verbal tools are available that every family can use to help move conflict beyond impasse to respectful conversation.
There’s probably no other childhood trauma quite as damaging as divorce. When kids are uprooted during divorce there are added problems adjusting for them. They often have to adjust to new schools, find new friends, and make new faith connections if they had a regular church life. Breaking social connections create unfulfilled needs most tied to hopelessness.
Being an effective listener is important not only to your spousal relationship, but to your role as an effective parent as well. If you really hear what they are saying you are in a much better position to respond in an accurate and meaningful way.