This section focuses on the role of parenting and is intended to help moms and dads become better parents. One of the themes in many of the articles that you'll find here is the need for parents to model the kind of behavior they want to see in their children.
One of the greatest needs in this country right now is for stronger and more effective parents. Many people have children, but fail to fully accept the responsibility for the type of person their children turn out to be. This is not an easy job, and it takes some tough choices to properly guide a child through the influences that are in the world today. Read the articles in this section to learn how you can become a better parent.
A question for all parents…
Have you carefully considered what you should be teaching to your children?
Many parents never stop and give careful thought to this question. They never make a real attempt to actually identify the qualities they should teach and develop within their offspring.
One of the blessings of being part of a family is to be able to share your life with others: your joys, your heartaches, your strengths, your weaknesses and even a few little secrets now and then.
You probably don’t think of yourself as a liar. However, the chances are you lied (or stretched the truth to the breaking point) this very day – either to someone outside your home or to someone in your family. Statistics show that the average person lies about twice a day. Kids average lying about three times a day. Ninety-six percent of the people in a Reader’s Digest poll admitted to lying…most of the time to family and friends.
The first step in teaching your children to how to set goals is to dream a little with them. To do so effectively, you have to be open to discussing all possibilities that they might want to entertain. “What do you want to be when you grow up?” is a question that you can ask at every age.
The first problem with the word integrity in our culture is that it is difficult to understand as a word. It gets jumbled in our vocabulary to vaguely denote honesty or character when we describe somebody we respect. It’s interesting that there are no true definitions of integrity in a search of the first ten pages of Internet quotes. We talk about it, but we have some difficulty trying to define it.
Probably the most difficult time to be a parent is when something is wrong with your child, and you can’t see what is causing their pain. According to The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), more than four million children and adolescents in America suffer from a mental illness that causes serious disruption to their quality of life as well as their families.
We live in an indifferent world. As a result, people treat each other with various levels of respect and, sometimes, outright disrespect. You may have even behaved disrespectfully to others in front of your children. Unfortunately, we all do it. We also make great excuses for why we need to be disrespectful, possibly the leading excuse is: “Because she/he did it to me first!”
One thing we quickly notice about our children are the unique characteristics the child displays even before she or he can talk. Temperament. Personality. Even their attitude.
Why is it that some children are stunningly self-directed and others need a more authoritarian approach? Why does John clean his room without being told and Jane would rather waste the whole day avoiding the chore? Why does Mary want to talk all of the time while Sarah doesn’t say much at all?
There are many reasons why couples consider adoption. The desire to raise children and the inability to conceive naturally are some of the basic reasons why couples make this decision. However, there are couples who decide to adopt children from troubled areas of the world or children who come from other ethnic groups to give them more opportunities in life. There are couples who can have children naturally, but still feel a strong urge to adopt an orphaned child as they realize that there are nearly 17 million orphaned children in the world. Every couple has its own set of reasons, dynamics, goals, and aspirations about raising children…all of which goes into the decision to adopt.